But keep in mind: Your intimacy can make others feel uncomfortable or left out. Try to be aware of how your behavior might make outsiders feel.
{2} Egalitarian. Everything is discussed, every aspect of the wedding agreed upon. For the tasting, this couple confers on which flavor to try first, second, and so on. (Because tastings at Erica OBrien Cake Design are deconstructed–un-iced cakes with icing on the side, as in the photo to the right–there is a lot to agree on.) For the egalitarian couple, nothing is done without consulting the other party and coming to a consensus.
If this describes you, here’s the best part: You probably eliminate a lot of potential areas for resentment. Your relationship is mature and based on mutual respect.
But keep in mind: It’s okay to step into traditional gender roles once in a while. It can be nice when someone opens the door for you, and it’s okay to cook dinner for your husband sometimes just because you love him.
{3} The man’s man. This couple has to schedule their cake tasting on a Saturday because his Sundays are all booked up with football. He considers cake the fifth food group, and you can tell by the way he powers through all the samples. Luckily, she finds it irresistibly charming and endearing.
But keep in mind: When it comes to other aspects of the wedding planning process, he might be less than interested, and he might see nothing wrong with displaying his signed baseball collection in the living room.
If this describes you, here’s the best part: You’re probably very close with your family and have an excellent relationship with your parents. You’ll make a loving, nurturing mother.
But keep in mind: A marriage is between two people first and their families second. Don’t let your close relationship with your family come between you and your husband.
{5} All business. Don’t get me wrong, wedding cake is serious business, but your tasting should also be fun. This couple approaches their wedding cake like they would any business transaction, weighing the pros and cons, considering all their options, and carefully adhering to their budget. They don’t allow their emotions (or taste buds) to get the better of them.
If this describes you, here’s the best part: You’re probably excellent with money and will enjoy a comfortable life and retirement together.
But keep in mind: Planning your wedding–or for that matter, your life–should be a fun adventure. Remember to enjoy the process.
Did we miss anyone? If you think you fit a category not described above, please let us know.
Gratitude and thanks to my friend and colleague Charla Brummel of Charla Blue Photography for the photo above.
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